Chapter 83: Show Yourself!

Anyone who knows me, knows I'm a terrible liar. I just can't do it. I think it' my Catholic guilt, I'm too much of a good samaritan!... Now... My point for this week's blog is questioning why someone would lie to you... If it's for the protection of the person involved and you know and love them, I get that. However, if it's to someone you're getting to know... what is the point? You can't start a friendship or a relationship built on lies and no matter what... the truth always catches up with you. Is it to look more impressive to the person? Or are you leading a double life? Are you ashamed of your real life or are you simply hiding behind a mask. A mask that will eventually reveal the true you and what you're really worried about... is revealing who you really are.

I think I have wrote a blog on lying before, but the reason I am exploring this again is because of this: I met someone recently and they lied through their teeth to me. I won't delve into the ins and outs of it, but safe to say, it left me quite shocked. If that person is reading this now, I'm afraid to say... You've been caught out. What I want to explore and uncover, is why there is a need to do this. To impress someone? To protect yourself? To not lose face? Safe to say  I'm glad I found out what  I did now, rather than fall hook, line and sinker and find out later down the line. I think the one thing that bothers me is that there is no remorse there? I said earlier I have Catholic guilt. I find it difficult to lie because it is written all over my face. White lies... okay we have all been guilty of that. But massive lies... Just a no go area for me.

Typical white lies include:

• My dog ate my homework.
• Your hair looks nice.
• I'll tidy my room tomorrow.
• This perfume is Dior.
• I got it from America.
• I got it from Australia.
• I got it from anywhere out of your reach.
• This is my natural hair colour.
• I will do the garden at the weekend.
• I shave my legs every day.
• I wash my hair every day.
• I brush my teeth three times a day.
• I need to work out tomorrow.
• I need to start my diet tomorrow.
• Your ass doesn't look big in them jeans.

The list goes on. Point is, we all lie and not one of you reading this can tell me you don't. You can be like me and find it difficult however. What I don't understand is how a person can tell a massive lie and more to the point, carry it on? I personally think anyone who can do this can be a professional actor, but essentially that is what it is - a big act.

On top of this... I just like to know the truth. And I would rather know it sooner rather than further down the line. Knowing later means the subject you were once bothered about isn't actually an issue anymore.

A massive lie to tell... cheating. If you are not feeling the relationship you are in and feel like you have a wondering eye, then my personal opinion, is that you shouldn't be in a relationship. If you develop feelings for someone else and want to be with them,  then you should be with them - but not at the cost of hurting others. I get that relationships can break down over time, but being with two/multiple people at one time is not the answer and I don't think it is possible to be in love with more than one person. Not for me anyway... Although I know that this is actually a part of some peoples cultures/beliefs. It's also another thing to be bigging up the person you're with, telling them how great they are when it's obvious you have a wandering eye or the things you apparently have in common, are in fact non-existent in the long run.

Another massive lie to tell... Lies that involve money, lying in jobs or leading separate lives! No matter what though, they always get found out. So is there a point in lying if the truth eventually comes out?

What are your thoughts on lying? Do you condone it? Do you disagree with it? Let me know on the back of here, message me on Facebook or tweet me @triciabaxter.

Have a great week and Bank Holiday guys!
T.x